- Trama Perspective and Individual Capacity - MW
- I Would Buy Me A Drink - MW
- Extraversion vs Introversion - HL
- Denial of Death - HL
- The Last Meeting and the Goodbye Conversation - HL
- Idiot Compassion vs Wise Compassion - HL
- The Thermostat Effect - HL
- Covert Aggression - MW
HL - Huberman Lab
MW - Modern Wisdom
Trama Perspective and Individual Capacity - MW
- I remember Jocko and Chris talk about how everyone is fighting their own battles and that a solider who just witnessed his friend get blow up by a IED will mark that as the most traumatic moment in his life where as a corporate worker might say his wife divorcing him and taking the kids is the most traumatic moment of his life.
- Is comparing the two side by side and saying that the solider has a legitimate trauma where as the corporate worker has a less legit trauma just perception of fairness? that one must be equal to the logical factors at play (in this case life or death isn't as bad as a marital seperation)?
I Would Buy Me A Drink - MW
Extraversion vs Introversion - HL
• 00:28:10 Introverts & Extroverts
Denial of Death - HL
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Scicomm Media How to Find & Be a Great Romantic Partner | Lori Gottlieb
The awareness of death to live more fully. How much do we let death in and how much do we let life in? The opposite of depression is vitality.
The Last Meeting and the Goodbye Conversation - HL
00:43:44 Scicomm Media How to Find & Be a Great Romantic Partner | Lori Gottlieb
When you and someone you deeply loved have completed your journey together and learned the lessons you needed, the universe will ensure you will never meet again.
Andrew Huberman talked about how he had to have a goodbye conversation with one of his close friends who died of cancer.
These conversations typically involve:
- Expressing unfinished feelings and thoughts
- Sharing gratitude and appreciation
- Seeking or offering forgiveness for past hurts
- Creating closure while the person is still able to engage
- Allowing both people to process the reality of the upcoming loss together
The psychological value of such conversations includes reducing anticipatory grief, preventing complicated grief later, and ensuring that important things are said while there's still time. It's different from waiting until someone is actively dying or unable to communicate meaningfully.
Idiot Compassion vs Wise Compassion - HL
01:21:31 Scicomm Media How to Find & Be a Great Romantic Partner | Lori Gottlieb
Idiot Compassion: Surrounding yourself with people who are only going to validate your experience.
Wise Compassion: What is actually going on here?
The Thermostat Effect - HL
02:13:11 Scicomm Media How to Find & Be a Great Romantic Partner | Lori Gottlieb
When people grow up with parents or peers who overreact with the little things, they grow up either not knowing what they want or don’t want to go out of someone else’s comfort zone.
Relates to several well-documented concepts in psychology:
- Emotional dysregulation modeling - When children grow up with parents who have extreme reactions to minor issues, they often struggle to develop their own emotional “calibration.” They may not learn what constitutes an appropriate response to different situations.
- Conflict avoidance patterns - Children from households with volatile reactions often become hypervigilant about maintaining peace. They learn to suppress their own needs and preferences to avoid triggering others’ overreactions.
- Learned helplessness and people-pleasing - Constantly walking on eggshells can lead to a diminished sense of personal agency. People may genuinely lose touch with their own desires because they’ve spent so much energy managing others’ emotions.
- Boundary confusion - When parents overreact to normal childhood behavior, it can create confusion about what’s reasonable to expect or ask for in relationships.
These individuals often become the family’s emotional thermostat, constantly adjusting their behavior to keep everyone else comfortable, while losing touch with their own emotional needs and preferences.
This pattern often continues into adulthood, where they may struggle with decision-making, assertiveness, and knowing what they actually want versus what they think others want them to want.
Covert Aggression - MW
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- Backhanded compliment: A statement that appears to be praise but actually contains an insult or criticism. It’s structured as a compliment but includes elements that undermine, belittle, or subtly attack the recipient. Examples include “You’re so brave to wear that outfit” or “You’re pretty smart for someone your age.”
- Covert aggression: A pattern of behavior where someone expresses hostility, criticism, or control in indirect, disguised ways rather than being openly confrontational. The aggression is hidden beneath a veneer of politeness, concern, or even helpfulness, making it harder to identify and address.
Covert aggression is broader than just backhanded compliments - it can include:
- Passive-aggressive behavior
- Deliberate “misunderstandings”
- Subtle undermining or sabotage
- False concern or fake helpfulness
- Strategic withholding of information or support
- Gaslighting (making someone question their perception of reality)
Both tactics serve similar psychological purposes: they allow the perpetrator to inflict emotional harm while maintaining deniability. The target often feels confused, hurt, or frustrated but struggles to articulate exactly what happened because the aggression was camouflaged. This confusion is often intentional - it’s designed to make the victim doubt themselves while protecting the aggressor from accountability.